How to start planning a wedding ...
My wedding was the best day of my life. I know people say that all the time but for me this was totally true. Now I work as head of marketing for my ‘real job’. So planning is integral to my career. So rather than getting stressed about what I needed to do for my wedding I approached it as I would any other launch. I made a list. A big list. And started prioritising. You can download this list here.
A big part of my early planning, was on Pinterest. This is such a fabulous source of information and ideas. However. I will give one slight health warning. This can make your wedding snowball. A little country wedding can soon become big budget… Try and be focused in your searches and limit what you look for. Be clear in your mind of your budget at all times.
You need a mantra ‘do I really need this?’
This is the biggest thing you need to plan. And stick to. As per my previous point it’s so easy to get carried away. Be realistic and work through what you really need.
One of the biggest factors to budget is of course funding. These days most weddings are funded by the bride and groom, rather than the traditional brides family. Regardless of where your funding is coming from you need to be clear on what your total budget is and what that needs to cover.
Is your honeymoon coming from the same pot of money? Do you need hotel rooms for the wedding itself? Some venues throw in a room as part of your wedding deal but not always. The night before the wedding you are likely to need 2 rooms, so you don’t share with your husband / wife to be the night before. You can save money by sharing with your maid of honour for example. You will then need a room for your wedding night, unless you are jetting right off to your honeymoon.
Venue, catering and flowers will be your big investments. You may already have a venue in mind, if so your budget research is already easier. Seek out special offers for certain dates and times. Negotiations are key to budget success, don’t accept rate card.
Seek out photos or post plans of weddings at your venue, this will give you an idea of what you need in terms of decor and flowers for the venue.
Investigate if the venue has a preferred supplier list, sometimes the venue will only allow certain suppliers in the venue so don’t assume !
Plus, suppliers that are used to your wedding venue can be a source of inspiration too. Why not download our wedding budget plan to start you on your way to perfect budget planning.
Keep to your theme
When I started planning my wedding, I had a theme in my head and on Pinterest but it wasn’t really coming to life in reality. So I changed my theme. Don’t be afraid to have a second thought on things. In retrospect the second idea was better than the first.
Think about the time of year you are getting married, dark burgundy colours tend to look best in autumn winter. Whereas pastel hues are great during spring and summer. This also is true for flowers, unless you are using a Faux Florist like Woodham Blooms, you need to check the flowers you want are in season.
This also happened for my wedding dress shopping. I went with a really prescriptive vision in mind but in reality I chose something very different.
However, once you start buying. Keep to your theme. You will have second thoughts and doubts but remind yourself of the excitement and delight at making the original decision and go with it.
Don’t allow others to taint your views. This is your day so make sure all the decisions feel right for you as a couple. This might feel selfish but fundamentally this is about your commitment as a couple so you need to be happy with everything on the day.